I discovered something very interesting this week in class. Many times when a family member chooses to take in a substance, we blame all the problems of the family and relationship on that substance. For instance a couple has a divorce and the dad is a drinker, many of us would think "of course they divorced because of the drinking" when in reality the negative relationship between husband and wife caused the husband to drink. It is very rare that people pick up drugs or drinking just for fun. Almost always these substances are used in a way to "help" the person cope with what they are struggling in. The substance comes along when their is already a problem in the family.