Continuation on importance of Mother's staying home......

During our class this week we were talking about Mother's who get "bored" or "want to contribute" to the family (as if being the mother of kids and taking care of the house doesn't already contribute and get rid of boredom) so they decided they will help bring in some extra money. They go and get a part time or full time job with every intention to only be apart of that job for couple of year to just bring in extra money. What we came to find out though through research this week is they don't bring in any extra money at all. As a matter of fact they are bring in less then they did before with just Dad working. This is because this "extra" money goes to paying for babysitters or day cares. It also goes to putting the children into activities, or buying a better car. Momma can't come home and make dinner like she use to so now more of the money goes to eating out. And now that the family supposedly has more money they can buy nicer things. Do you see where all the "extra" money is being used up? In the long run it would be cheaper and they would have more money if Mom just stayed at home and did what she is suppose to once you have kids.

The Importance of Mothers in the Home

I would like to just start off by saying anything a woman learns is needed in her home, whether this is a college degree or simply what her mother taught her. I do believe there are many of those who waste their precious gifts of being a homemaker and mother of their family. Who think staying home and taking care of the house and being there for the kids is “boring”. They feel left behind as if everyone was invited to run the same race except for them. These women are missing the most important part of their lives. Honestly what’s the purpose of the Plan of Salvation if the women are not supposed to stay home? What are we missing out on anyway with staying home? I feel I will have the best in life watching my children grow up and learning what special spirits I was blessed with. A stay-at-home-mother does everything but be “mind-numbing”, everyday brings new issues that Mom has to constantly be aware of. I asked my Mom who, has been a stay-at-home-mom since she had her first child 35 years ago, if she ever had a boring day or ever felt she could have done more for herself and the family if she continued her education. She told me there is nothing she could do outside the home that would move her emotions, push her mind beyond comprehension, and motivate her more, then staying home with us kids. I believe we should continue education, only when we have taken care of our children and they no longer live in the home anymore. Forgive me if this may seem forward or rude, but I believe when mothers spend time on education rather then their own children they are being extremely selfish. A working mother is totally different, and there are times when in order to take care of children moms have to work as well. I’m strictly talking of moms who stay in college while their children grow up. I am so grateful for my mother who has continually put us kids first. Because of her I am who I am today. Motherhood is about being selfless, we are given children to teach them, and raise them knowing who they are. If we are caught up in classes, homework, tests, and projects, how do we expect to give the full attention to the little ones who need it most?

It is interesting to me how many times I get caught up in this mind set that the events around me cause my actions. This is not true. We get to choose the way we react to any event, by changing the way we think and feel about it. Funny as this may sound I suffered from depression, and many other problems and addictions that young people suffer from. As I struggled getting over these problems I didn't just want them to be numbed by medicine or live my whole life as a lie. I wanted them completely gone, and I felt in order to accomplish this I needed to take the time to get over them myself. I didn't realize it then but I was continuously changing my thoughts when I would struggle. As I kept up on making my thoughts positive my feelings were changing, which changed my actions. I had to tell myself over again and again that I was good, and beautiful. I recognized that my original thoughts were untrue, and that is the first step.
The main point in sharing any of this is to prove that you are not controlled by events, rather you control your own reaction and what you think on event. If you don't like who or what you have become, change it. If you have the power and will, you can become anything you want to be.

        My Dad would always buy my Mom flowers or call her often to let her know he was safe or on his way home. One thing I admire greatly from him is he never hesitated to us girls how much he loved Momma. There was a couple times when I was going through hard relationships that he would sit me down and tell me how much he loves my Mother. At first I use to think "how cute Daddy loves Mommy" but now as I have found better relationships, including the best which is marriage, I understand what my Father was hoping I would take from these talks. To understand how important it is to have a man who loves me so greatly. I have never doubted my husband's love for me, nor the love my Father has for my Mother. It has helped all of us kids understand the importance of love, and know that we can find a man or woman who has that love for us forever.